Relationships have a way of bringing both our greatest strengths and our deepest vulnerabilities to the surface.

I offer private one-on-one relationship guidance for people who are trying to understand a relationship, recover their perspective after a difficult one, recognize patterns they keep repeating, or simply figure out what healthy love looks like for them.

My approach isn't about immediately labeling one person the narcissist, the empath, the avoidant or the problem.

I'm much more interested in understanding the pattern.

You may find yourself asking:

Is this narcissism? Am I dealing with an avoidant partner? Why do I keep choosing emotionally unavailable people? Am I the problem? Why can't I let this relationship go? Is this love, attachment or fear?

Those are conversations I'm comfortable having.

I can help you explore attachment styles, narcissistic traits and relationship dynamics, empathy, emotional availability, boundaries, people-pleasing, codependent patterns, communication, conditional versus unconditional love, self-worth and the difference between loving someone and losing yourself trying to love them.

Labels can sometimes give us useful language. They shouldn't become the entire story.

Understanding attachment theory can offer a different way of looking at the push-and-pull that happens in relationships.

Anxious. Avoidant. Secure. Fearful.

Rather than simply deciding which label fits, I like exploring what happens between two people — what activates each person, how each responds to closeness or distance, and why the same cycle can continue even when both people are unhappy with it.

Awareness doesn't guarantee that another person will change.

It can give you more choice about what you do next.

The word narcissist gets used frequently, particularly after painful relationships.

I can help you examine behaviors and patterns — such as lack of reciprocity, manipulation, excessive need for validation, control, idealization and devaluation, difficulty accepting responsibility, or lack of empathy — without attempting to clinically diagnose someone I've never evaluated.

And sometimes an equally important question is:

What kept me participating in this dynamic, and what do I need now?

That's where the conversation can begin moving away from analyzing another person and back toward understanding yourself.

Does loving someone unconditionally mean accepting everything they do?

I don't believe it does.

Love and access are different things.

You can care deeply about another person while recognizing that a particular relationship dynamic isn't healthy for you. Boundaries don't necessarily mean that love has disappeared; sometimes they're how you stop abandoning yourself in order to preserve a connection.

These are exactly the kinds of questions I want there to be room to explore here.

One of the most painful consequences of a difficult relationship can be losing confidence in your own perception.

You may start questioning whether you were too sensitive, too demanding, not lovable enough, or somehow responsible for everything that went wrong.

My goal isn't to tell you that you were perfect or that the other person was entirely wrong.

It's to help you look at the relationship with greater clarity, recognize what belongs to you and what doesn't, reconnect with your own values, and decide what you want your relationships to look like moving forward.

You don't need me to tell you who the villain was.

You need enough clarity to decide what you want to carry forward — and what you're ready to put down.

That's the work I'm interested in doing with you.

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Bright Borealis Relationship Clarity is a non-clinical coaching, educational and spiritual guidance service. I offer a supplemental perspective for exploring relationships, behavior, personal patterns, attachment, self-worth and spiritual growth.

I do not diagnose or treat personality disorders, trauma, mental-health conditions or relationship disorders, and my services are not psychotherapy, couples therapy or a substitute for professional mental-health or medical care.

When mental-health, medical, legal, domestic-violence, addiction-treatment or crisis support is appropriate, I encourage clients to seek qualified professional resources. 

Bright Borealis can be used alongside professional support as an additional space for reflection, spiritual exploration and personal growth. 

60 Minutes • $110

A private one-on-one session focused on a relationship, breakup, confusing connection or recurring relationship pattern.

I can help you explore attachment styles, communication, boundaries, emotional availability, narcissistic traits, empathy, conditional versus unconditional love, self-worth and the patterns occurring within the relationship.

The goal isn't to decide who is the villain. It's to understand what's happening, what belongs to you, and what choices you have moving forward.

90 Minutes • $175

For relationships that can't be unpacked in an hour.

This extended session gives me more time to explore complicated or long-term relationship dynamics, attachment patterns, difficult breakups, push-and-pull relationships, family patterns, questions surrounding narcissism or empathy, and the ways a relationship may have affected your sense of self.

I'll help you look at both the shadow and the light of the relationship while bringing the focus back to your own clarity, boundaries, choices and self-worth.

Three 60-Minute Sessions • $295

Sometimes understanding the pattern takes more than one conversation.

Relationship Reset gives you three private sessions that can be used over several weeks as you work through a relationship, separation, recurring pattern or period of personal change.

The first session can focus on understanding what happened. The second can go deeper into patterns, attachment, boundaries and self-worth. The third can focus on what you want to carry forward and what you're ready to leave behind.

The process is personalized to you — there is no required formula.

60 Minutes • $110

A focused session for understanding the attachment dynamics showing up in your relationships.

I can help you explore anxious, avoidant, fearful and secure attachment patterns; the pursuit-and-withdrawal cycle; emotional availability; fear of abandonment; fear of intimacy; and why certain relationship dynamics can feel so difficult to leave.

The purpose isn't simply to give yourself or another person a label. It's to understand the pattern and what you can do differently with that awareness.

60 Minutes • $110

For anyone asking questions such as:

Am I dealing with narcissistic behavior? Am I the narcissist? Am I overly empathetic? Why do I keep questioning myself? Why does this relationship feel so confusing?

I'll help you examine behaviors, patterns, reciprocity, empathy, boundaries, accountability and the overall relationship dynamic without attempting to clinically diagnose you or another person.

Sometimes understanding the label helps. Sometimes discovering what's happening underneath the label helps even more.

60 Minutes • $110

For the chapter after — or the moment when you realize something needs to change.

This session focuses less on understanding the other person and more on reconnecting with yourself.

I can help you explore self-worth, boundaries, identity, people-pleasing, rebuilding confidence, letting go, forgiveness, loneliness, recognizing your own needs and deciding what you want future relationships to look like.

You don't have to erase the past to create something different from it.

75 Minutes • $150

Explore a relationship through an astrological lens.

I'll look at the connections between two birth charts and explore themes involving attraction, communication, emotional needs, compatibility, tension, growth and recurring relationship dynamics.

This reading can be used for romantic relationships or another meaningful personal connection.

Birth information for both people is recommended.